Wednesday, April 2, 2025

Status Update: I'm Alive, the Internet's Dead

The only interesting thing about this half-week's news is that the first thunderstorm of the year zapped the Internet in an unusual way. I'd closed and covered the laptop when lightning appeared to be striking a tree up in the woods; the hot-air fan wasn't running but I'd pulled a blanket up around my face and made a bid for some sleep at a normal time of night, about 4:30 a.m. Minutes later, when I'd got deep enough into slumberland to think "Whatever" instead of bolting up in shock, lightning appeared to strike something closer than the woods. Either it went down with a loud, lasting rumble or it was close enough that the thunder and lightning occurred at the same time. 

Then I peeked out from under the blanket and saw the surprising thing. The laptop's little running lights were steady red, one staying on and one blinking in rhythm--not blinking fast to tell me the flow of electricity had been disrupted. Not even by the computer's draining and recharging the battery, as Microsoft's sinister machinations have finally got it doing. The electricity was on! Nothing had been touched, on the screen porch, by this near miss with The Storm and Its Fury. 

But the Internet was completely dead. No "emergency only" connection was available. Not on Monday morning. Not this morning, either. So I packed up the laptop and came into town, where I find even McDonald's connection limping along on "emergency only" wireless hardware. Apparently the storm took out all of the regular Internet connection-ware. I e-mailed the company to report the outage and then noticed that, funnily enough, their web site wasn't working properly either.

So this web site is in for another hiatus. How long this one will last, or how much private Internet connection owners' rates will increase as a result of it, I have no idea. I'm taking it as another reminder that we're all better off with just a few public-access computer centers, all connected up to the teeth with multiple servers and generators and all, instead of private connections that take so much more wiring and repairing. 

I had written the blather for this week's Petfinder post. I don't know whether I'll be able to find current Petfinder links on Friday. So this week's Petfinder post should appear, if McDonald's emergency connection lasts, this evening. A few more thought pieces and butterfly posts will appear on schedule. The next Status Update will let you know when I'm online again.

The Link Log Weekender You Missed: 3.28-30.25

(This post was on the laptop for editing when the laptop was quickly closed and moved indoors, before the Internet went completely dead, during the big storm early Monday morning.)

Actually I spent a large part of this weekend in bed, half awake, with complications from a chemical reaction that were uncomfortable enough to prevent real sleep while I still felt too sleepy to do much of anything useful; nothing life-threatening but nothing remotely like enjoying the lovely spring air. The only spring flowers I had a chance to enjoy were the ground-ivy and the first few daffodils in the not-a-lawn and the Fantastic Feral Elberta Peach Tree out on the property line. (Nothing ever gets that little tree down; despite the cold nights of winter, which have guaranteed that most local peach trees won't produce fruit this year, it is covered in bright pink blooms.) Grump grump grump. I was so grumpy I even yelled at Serena-cat, who was so perturbed by being yelled at that she didn't even show me the mouse that got into the office, although she caught it. Link hunting on Sunday afternoon feels like a step toward full recovery. I expect to be fit for yard work by Monday.

Serena, however, says I'm still below par and need careful observation. Humans are a frail, nervous, rather tiresome species, she says, apt to make loud noises when exposed to mundane annoyances like fires, insects, and wet shoes, but when they shout at cats their condition must be extremely bad.

Animals 

For those who've been enjoying the butterfly posts, which the computer shows people are doing, but wondering...Yes, considering all the species in alphabetical order does mean that the majority of the butterflies we've discussed aren't even found on your continent--whichever one that is. (Yes, the butterfly posts are read on all the continents where butterflies live. So far the computer has not reported this web site's being read on Antarctica.) Yes, because science is global and legislation is local, "Well that's nice that we're informing African readers about African butterfly species, but what the bleep does that have to do with glyphosate?"

In some African countries glyphosate is a very serious problem; remember, one of the glyphosate e-books I recommend everyone read comes from Africa. The sovereignty of individual nations has given some people blessed relief from glyphosate and other mistakes a majority of humankind have made. That's one reason why we should not grant any global organization any authority to do anything beyond offering mediation services as an alternative to war. (And of course, if the global organization bogs down in an outdated, discredited ideology that has become a substitute for religion for those who bought into it, and fails to offer viable answers to countries that seek mediation services, then we have the current UN mess, with the would-be global dictators issuing their diktats on topics they should know they have nothing to do with, while the globe erupts in wars, and the Trumpistas' call for defunding the UN does sound like a reasonable business decision...but I digress.)

In other countries glyphosate may not even be an issue relevant to protecting local butterfly species. In some countries glyphosate is already banned. In those countries butterflies are presumably more threatened by other things. As we're seeing, some butterflies seem to be in great danger, either because changes to their environment are threatening their existence or because they're so rare that the local subspecies' survival may depend on twenty individual insects. Other species seem to be well adjusted to their environments, even as those environments change; some species have been thriving in suburbs for two hundred years. This web site can't judge or advise readers on what else may or may not be needed to protect every butterfly species on Earth. 

You, the individual reader, must use information about your local butterflies to protect them from threats to their existence. All we can say about butterflies generally, worldwide, is that they're not pests; they are beneficial to sustainable agriculture, because they're composters or pollinators or both; and nearly all of them are totally dependent on "weeds" to survive. So the first consideration, wherever butterfly populations decline, is making sure that people aren't spraying pesticides that kill those "weeds" even when the "weeds" are in their proper places and ought to be appreciated as native plants. 

It goes further. As we've seen, in many places beloved butterfly species live in total symbiotic relationships with vines that grow in deep dark forests. What happens when forests are lost to excessive logging or urbanization? Right. The last thing people living on Nicobar island need is American keyboard warriors telling them what to do. I respect that. Readers on Nicobar island are adults and can work out for yourselves what you need to do. This web site only reports information.

But here, from the analytical and teacherly mind of Elizabeth Barrette, is a summary of what readers can be doing on behalf of butterflies--generally, nationwide or worldwide, wherever you are:


I'd posted comments before the last big browser crash, which means I'm retrieving the link after EB's had time to post informative replies. So the link is not as new as it should have been when it appeared here, but it's been enriched with extra facts.

Communication 


I saw it on Joe Jackson's blog. Google traces it to somebody called Lanhdanan on Imgur.

Monday, March 31, 2025

New Book Review: Cursed Kingdom

Title: A Cursed Kingdom

Author: R.A. Lindo

Date: 2025

Quote: "Prepare your openings and understand that every word will count."

The students who "win" a creative writing competition find themselves acting out adventures in the world of their stories. Their preparation for each stage in their journey involves dreaming or writing more of the story they're about to live out. 

Their first big adventure reaches a kind of resolution, at the end, but lots of loose ends are waiting to be tied up in a series. This is the author who gave us the long series about Kaira Renn and this short novel gives every indication that another long series is on its way.

Will you want to read the series? Maybe. How much do you want to find out whether Lena will choose Tom or Jack, what's wrong with unfriendly Hayley and how she'll get over it, whether she'll pair up with one of the boys, how their parents will be involved, what happened to Tom's father's friend Sleeping Bill in the years he's spent in the collective fantasy world...The concept is interesting; it should be fun to find out where Lindo takes it.

Butterfly of the Week: Andaman Swordtail

Graphium epaminondas, the Andaman Swordtail, is a rare species found only on India's Andaman islands. In fact, it may be resident only on one island, South Andaman. The question is whether to classify it as vulnerable, threatened, or endangered. It has only ever been reported on the islands and has been numerous only in a few specific places. Its population, never very large, is clearly decreasing due to human activity, but how much protection does it need?


Photo by Evannazareth, taken in September on South Andaman.

Americans see it as beautiful; it looks like a Zebra Swallowtail, only bigger, with more orange than blue undertones in its colors. It's described as black or brown, white, and orange, rather than black, pale blue or green, and red. (Funet.fi has both Oberthur's and Wood-Mason's detailed descriptions, so precise that a person who had never seen the butterfly could color in an outline and achieve a reasonable likeness.) Its wingspan is typically about four inches. Males and females look similar.


Photo by Minla8, taken in March on South Andaman.


Photo by Parthasarathy Gopalan, taken in September on South Andaman. This was the only photo of a living butterfly showing its upper wings that a Google search pulled up. It loaded very slowly for me. If it's not showing up on your screen, you can try right-clicking on the space where the photo should be and clicking on "Load image" when the menu shows up.  Alternatively, you may be able to see it at https://www.ifoundbutterflies.org/graphium-epaminondas ,  but that site did not load for me on the first try, either. 

It has been given a few different names. The genus was originally lumped into Papilio; some now split it into Pathysa, which is currently listed as a sub-genus name. The species has been lumped in with antiphates and has been called laestrygonum or laestrigonum or laestrygonium. It was described in 1880, when naturalists were starting to run low on names of heroes of literature to give to Swallowtail butterflies. The naturalist who called it laestrygonum, J. Wood-Mason, explained that because it looked like Graphium antiphates, which was named after an ancient king, he called this species after Antiphates' territory; before publishing his description of the butterfly under this name, he had read Oberthur's description of Graphium epaminondas and was sure it was the same butterfly, but he wasn't sure which description had been offered to the world first. Nineteenth century naturalists determined that Oberthur's description was written first, so the species has been properly known as epaminondas ever since.

Some of us are familiar with a twentieth century picture book character called Epaminondas who was our best known version of a character found in folktales around the world--the very young or foolish person who manages to do each task wrong by following instructions he was given for the previous task. This week's butterfly was, of course, named for an ancient Greek character, a defeated war chief of the city of Thebes. This historical Epaminondas was recognized by his victorious opponents as smart, brave, tough, and the "lover" of another Theban war chief, Pelopidas. 

The most obvious threat to Graphium epaminondas's survival is habitat loss. It lives in forests, where it  is known to eat only one host plant, Uvaria rufa. Its life cycle has not been fully documented but it is believed to be monophagous, like Zebra Swallowtails, living in symbiosis with one plant species. As increasing human populations eat away the forests, the butterflies and their host plants are in decline. 

This species is popular; despite its threatened status, allegedly old carcasses are still being traded, and it has inspired artists. It has been portrayed on postage stamps.


2018 stamps available from https://www.surinamestamps.com/stamp-issue-programme-2018/ The printed sheet places epaminondas among the Birdwings and Bhutan Glories.


This photo from Indiabiodiversity.org is said to include three caterpillars of different ages, showing that this is not one of the Swallowtail species that are prone to cannibalism.  No other source described the eggs, caterpillars, or chrysalides of this species.

Sunday, March 30, 2025

Book Review: You Lied to Me about God

Title: You Lied to Me About God 

Author: Jamie Marich

Christians should read this book. It tells us so much about what not to do. 

Jamie Marich, Ph.D., is a multitalented success story you can look up online. Go ahead--read the long list of her achievements now. But don't envy her; in this memoir she tells us she's also a recovering addict. And also, she says, "Queer," self-identifying as plural in this book because sometimes she's writing for her wounded inner children. And they were wounded, she says, by spiritual abuse when her father quarrelled with her mother's church. The acrimony only seemed to increase through the messy divorce and the years of split custody. 

Spiritual abuse? What's that? Many little things, Marich says, but most memorably, it's the toxic sermon her father preached at her when her favorite teacher died. (She cried more loudly, rousing her younger brother to come out of his room and order their father to "leave my sister alone.") Their mother was Catholic; their father had become a Protestant and looked for Catholic-influenced behavior to correct when the children were with him. He even subjected them to Jimmy Swaggart's sermons and Rush Limbaugh's radio show. (Little Jamie still seems to think Limbaugh used "feminazi" to mean "feminist." In The Way Things Ought to Be Limbaugh defined "feminazi" as a woman who is glad when abortions are performed, and estimated that there were fewer than two dozen feminazis on Earth.) The brother, Paul, became a Catholic priest. 

The ill-timed sermon was unforgivable, indeed...in merely human terms. When we presume to tell people how God is going to judge other people, that misfortunes are punishments, that their lives are sure to get worse than they are now, we're lying to them about God--claiming that we know something about God that we don't know. This is a great and terrible sin. Jesus said that a man who does it to children would be better off "having a millstone round his neck, to be cast into the sea." But Christians can ask God for help to forgive such things, when God makes forgiveness possible by leading the offender to repent. Marich's father was active in his new church, and his faith seemed to bear fruit; his children had enjoyed spending time with him, mostly, and their friends enthused that they had "the best dad." And then one night in a moment of hubris "the best dad" said a few stupid words that made his children reconsider and distrust everything else he said. Had he really shared little Jamie's body image concerns as a loving parent, or used toxic body-shaming for more Freudian reasons? Had his "dates" with his children really been as wholesome as, at the time, they'd seemed?

(Tip for those who used to have "dates" or "play dates" with adults in your family: If it felt wholesome and sweet at the time, it was--at least as wholesome as fallible mortals could make it. Elders will probably always seem to the young to have defective senses of humor; that does not make us pedophiles.)

But funnily enough, Marich's symptoms of "spiritual abuse" sound exactly like the symptoms of which so many of Generation X complain. They are or feel fat. They feel depressed. They self-medicate with drugs and sex. Especially and tediously sex, because they want to believe that "sexuality" is the most important thing in their lives. They want to believe that any attempt to control their bodily urges just might kill them, that the only reason why anyone should ever fail to act on a physical attraction would be rejection, for which they'd probably need lots of expensive, addictive prescription pills to make sure they didn't (oh, the horror!) become "sexual anorexics," such as Marich claims to think St. Paul was. 

When I was young I used to think it came from being teenagers, and they'd outgrow it. Now that some of Generation X have grandchildren, I confess, friends, I am puzzled. They could outgrow it any time now, but when?

I think one of the worst abuses that was practiced on Generation X, generally, as a demographic, was allowing them to believe that "sexuality" controls people as they seem to think it does. People are meant to control their sexuality, just as we do the other body functions that are essential to our own individual survival and not merely the survival of the species. You have no control over whom and what you're attracted to, but you have full control of what you do about that attraction. Nobody has a right to blame anybody for having an appetite for food, but people can and do blame those who display bad table manners. Nobody has a right to blame anybody for feeling attracted to an act or a person, but people can and do blame those who voluntarily behave unchastely or indiscreetly.

And so...when people insist on talking about their sexual behavior, some behavior is judged more harshly than others. Marich tells us she's "Queer." Not in the sense that some woman thought she looked like a man and she responded favorably to that woman; in the sense that people carrying around resentment of their opposite-sex parents don't show the "body language" that attracts the opposite sex, and they want to blame their body shape or color or clothes when the fact is that their reactions to the opposite sex are off-putting, so things go on and on and get worse and worse unless, until, someone offers a homosexual experience. The offer might reflect the fact that an individual looks like a "boi" or simply that the person does not show all that emotional conflict every time person looks at someone of the same sex. Anyway, they accept the offer, and then they let that experience define them. They were not "born gay"; they're settling for a same-sex relationship because they're letting their damaged emotions spoil the heterosexual relationships they actually want. 

Emotional healing, like physical healing, happens at its own pace. God loves people who are seeking healing. But it would be very hard to make a case that God's will for anyone's best life is to stay stuck in this quagmire of anger, pride, and lust. 

Marich tells us that she was attracted to boys. But although high school boys may admire the girl who's at the head of every class, it's a rare high school boy who thinks he can hold his own in a conversation with that girl. Later she realizes that one of the boys on whom she had a crush had a crush on her, and they act on that attraction, but he's married someone else by now so they can have only occasional...At this point I would probably have closed the book if I hadn't been reading it on a computer. Anyway, Marich goes on to say, there were two short-term marriages, and then a woman made herself available and Marich realized that she could feel attracted to women too. 

Is that a sin? It's certainly not God's perfect will. I believe our, as in most humans', physical nature is currently discouraging us from reproducing because we live in a crowded world. Still, when that complex of old anger, guilt, resentment, shame, and fear is what's coming between you and someone you want to be with, so you're settling for someone else, I don't think it's true to claim that God made you just the way you are. You also contributed something to the way you are...something you don't like, something you would do better to clean out of your life, no matter what social pressure you may feel to "join the 'gay' community." When you've rebuilt a vibrant relationship with both of your parents and with as many parent-surrogates as you still have in this world, then you have something worth telling the world about how you have really grown up, all the way, to relate to other people.

Marich correctly says that the farce of instant one-way "forgiveness" that only functions to prevent bad situations being corrected, where people are told to accept abuse and move on, is not good for anyone and has nothing to do with what Jesus taught. That's true. What her father said, probably like some things she said to him and some things the other members of the family said to one another, is unforgivable until the one who said it repents. Only then is it obligatory, or even possible, to forgive the offender. Any people, whether connected by DNA or by "choice" or by accident, will get into this situation if they spend enough time together. Lingering resentment, refusal to forgive the person when the person has repented, gives otherwise attractive people an off-putting affect. You're not to blame if the person you find attractive thinks person is only interested in a different body type than yours, or if you're not asked for dates because young people in your community can't afford to date, or for any number of other reasons, but you are partly to blame if you lose dates by radiating resentment. 

Marich has a right to resent the people who say "I'll pray for you" with a clear implication of "...to change and be like me." I'm not so sure that she has a right to claim that her "Queer" voluntary behavior is what God wants for or from her. This is not a tell-all sex memoir, but the book does make it clear that Marich has flopped into bed with men, plural, and women, plural, in the absence of any commitment to a Partnership for Life. We call that promiscuity; the KJV calls it, well, a word that's become too rude for this website to quote, or in more detailed terms selling themselves as slaves and not even having enough sense to pick up the money. It's forgivable--the Old Testament prophets portray God begging for a chance to forgive it--but it is sin.

Should Christians be able to talk to Marich without hitting her with the message that "you just published a BOOK about how you're an open and notorious sinner!"? Of course. Should Marich be able to talk to people without saying anything about her sex life? That, too. Instead of pretending that everything is okay, even sexual abuse of students--which Marich very properly calls out, in this book--we might do better to rediscover the truth that not everything needs to be publicly discussed.

We might rediscover that, when celibacy is not something people inflict on themselves by unconsciously signalling hostility toward the opposite sex, or something caused by psychotic conditions (like some of Freud's patients) or psychopharmaceuticals (like about a third of all users of serotonin boosters), but is chosen as a spiritual discipline to be followed until a person finds a Partner for Life, celibacy is good. 

We might even let ourselves ask whether the wholesale dumping of estrogen into animals being fattened for our consumption has something to do with the increasing incidence, in each generation, of that overgrown, overstuffed capon look. A capon is a male fowl who has been neutered, and these days probably fed estrogen as well, to alter his metabolism so that he grows bigger, fatter, less muscular, than normal males of his species. As the popularity of "growth hormones" has grown, genuine childhood obesity, often combined with early puberty and also early cardiovascular diseases, has become more common in each decade; the majority of graduating classes at many schools now look like what would have been the lonely fat kid at schools my generation attended. That is one known effect of unbalanced surplus estrogen; the other is that it seems to generate estrus cycles in females that may be abnormal, unhealthy, even associated with cancer as estrogen promotes abnormal growth in all types of cells. 

Estrogen-fattened meat marinated, around the time of slaughter, in antibiotics. Chemical preservatives and processing agents in food. Glyphosate in air, food, and water. Atrazine, known to aggravate and un-balance estrogens in all bodies, on suburban lawns. Motor exhaust fumes in the air. Drugs, legal or not, prescription or over-the-counter. Formaldehyde in most non-food items. Chlorine in water. Other chemicals that have not traditionally been ingested by humans popping up in places where we're not looking for them--last year the FDA allowed food companies to market foods, from main dishes to whipped "cream," made with antifreeze as an ingredient. Propylene glycol antifreeze, the kind blamed for killing an occasional pet or toddler who finds and drinks it, as food. It's no wonder that ever increasing numbers of young people grow up fat, depressed, and addicted to sex and drugs. And, because psychologists used to be consulted by parents to "cure" children's behavior, so much of traditional psychological literature has been about what those parents could do, it's no wonder that these young people blame their parents first. Some blame is due to the parents, and some to the schools and some to the doctors and therapists and so on. Still, here's the proof, a few obnoxious words seem to produce the same effect on an adult child who was never beaten, raped, or starved that beating, rape, and starvation seem to produce on those who survived them. We have to start asking how much of the blame is due to the physical effect all this pollution has on the brain and body.

Still, Christianity keeps leading us back to the core of our faith, which is forgiveness. Any liar can say "Your sins are" (or are not) "forgiven"; in the KJV even the apostles said "Thy sins be forgiven," using "be" as the subjunctive form. We would now say "May your sins be forgiven." We should say that, perhaps more often than we do, but we are told that God's willingness to hear this prayer depends on our willingness to forgive those who repent of their sins against us. The process of forgiveness does begin with repentance. Ongoing abuses need to be addressed and stopped even in order for repentance to have meaning. 

The best memoirs are not always happy. Some writers leave the harrowing parts in. Readers seem to find Aristotle's "catharsis" in reading about chatty little Anne Frank's having to be silent all day or Richard Wright's nightmares after having killed a stray kitten. The best memoirs do, however, leave the reader with hope. Richard Wright stopped torturing animals and grew up; Anne Frank didn't grow up, but from the fact that she volunteered to work in the prison camp we know she thought she would grow up. I don't know what God's will for Jamie Marich's life may be, whether she might be called to marriage or solitude or even a lifelong bond with a girlfriend. I do know that she's about forty years old now, maybe (books aren't usually published on the day the writing is finished) fifty by now, old enough to start preparing for the half of life that comes after the sex-ridden years. 

That's a major misconception that Marich perpetuates in her book. Even Freud recognized that voluntary celibacy could "sublimate" sex energy into better things, and St. Paul was one of the world's leading examples and exponents of this truth. Marich claims that Paul disliked women; the Bible doesn't tell us whether he did or not. Only "tradition" says that Paul's marriage was unhappy and he was glad to be widowed. Paul himself tells us that he recognized a woman as his teacher, saluted other female missionaries (at least one as a full-fledged "apostle"), proclaimed that "in Christ" race and gender didn't matter, and then warned women in the church not to push the envelope of social convention too far. Marich goes so far as to diagnose Paul as a case of "sexual anorexia," which only shows how young she is. Paul was asked to write so much because of his seniority. With seniority hormone levels subside; carnal commotion quietens down. Older couples may love each other more than ever, may still allow memory to lead to a few more moments of passion, but generally feel less need to consummate that love the way they did when they were in baby-making mode. Older widows, I know firsthand, may have been passionate in youth and may now be glad that we've "been there, done that," and don't feel compelled to play the dating game again. Sexual opportunities become ways to reminisce; lack of sexual opportunities becomes, well, just the way things go. It's not anorexia. It is satisfaction. We've done what people do when they're twenty years old and moved on to what people do when they're fifty or sixty or seventy.

I wish Marich the ability to find satisfaction, and recognize it, when sexuality stops providing it even in the short-term way it does. Generally humans get about twenty-five years to enjoy being "hot." After age fifty, if we still catch the eyes of the "hot" the resulting conversations tempt us to laugh rudely rather than to flop into bed. Age forty is a wake-up call. One may look and feel as young as ever, at forty, and many people have that one last serious infatuation that might lead to True Love in their forties, but at forty one has to start preparing for the postsexual years.

All this is not to deny the value of Marich's work with addicts, or her creative work--but this book has little to say about her work with addicts or even about her recovery experience. Those were the topics of other books. This is the book about how angry she still feels at her parents and how badly she allowed that to affect her young-adult life. 

It affected her faith, too. Though she still confesses belief in Jesus, Marich also left the Catholic church and then left a few yoga groups. She quotes an American "yogi" who taught that the spiritual truth is the part all the different religions have in common; everything else is "just details" and may or may not be true. And since the Bible doesn't claim to contain all the truth there is in this world (think about it: the Bible says nothing at all about raising tomatoes!), maybe some things the Bible plainly says are untruth, too. And so when asked to serve as a mediator between homosexuals and their conservative Christian families, she always demands that the Christians concede the demands of the homosexual lobby first...

Ah, yes. "Whatever we do not forgive, we are doomed one day to live," counsellors used to say in the 1970s. Marich probably would feel indignant if her demands that traditional Catholics celebrate homosexual behavior were compared with her father's demand that the rest of her family stop praying to Mother Mary. People with that sort of emotional complex usually do. Madeleine L'Engle had a character, though drunk, realize what she was doing and scream at her long-dead father's picture, "Pa, I'm just like you, damn you!" 

I think Marich needed to write this book, and to discuss every chapter with her family in family counselling sessions. Her parents need to express penitence to her. Based on personal experience (I had grievances with my parents, too, and know the benefits of reconciliation) I'd guess that Marich has some repentance to do, too. If Christian families sincerely ask for the grace of reconciliation and not the selfish pleasure of scoring points off one another, reconciliation will be given them. Marich should give that experience five or ten years to happen and bear fruit in her life. Then she should publish the story of how that worked. Then she'll probably recognize that this book has value...as an indicator of how far she's come, how far she's needed to come. 

Saturday, March 29, 2025

April Is the Cruelest Month...

"Remember," said April, "the forsythia
that you remembered and drew for the teacher
whom you wanted to cheer up, 
who would not be cheered up."
"I remember," I said, "not to cling to a peevish mood."

"Remember," said April, "the fluffy baby chicken
who learned to snuggle into your hand or pocket..
You embroidered his likeness on a pocket later
and he flew at it scratching and biting,
trying to tear the pocket off your skirt.
For an encore he tried to kill his fluffy baby son."
"I remember," I said, "to choose female animals as pets."

"Remember," said April, "the barrels of family treasures
stored under the house on the sunny side of the hill.
Instead of leaving them at another relative's house
your parents tried to move them across the country
and lost things that had been kept for three hundred years."
"I remember," I said, "to avoid changes of address."

"Remember..." said April. On and on memory went.
How each year's spring stirs up hopes of Paradise
that fall and are dashed on the stones of earthly reality,
and each disappointment's a lesson, drawing the sting
of April's fooling from a life-beginner's mind...

"How all things sang of life while your husband was dying,
how summer never followed spring for him."
"I remember," I said: "in the midst of life 
we are in death." And I shed no tear
for I am old enough to have shed all my tears now.
One who has no more tears cannot live much longer
and spares no more time to regrets and recriminations.

"My work is done, then," said April, unfurling dogwood
and redbud and cherry blossoms, trees of pink snow,
the fabulous feral peach tree defying all the attempts
on its life and on mine. And my eyes drank and rejoiced.

Friday, March 28, 2025

Book Review: Shadow of Temptation

Title: Shadow of Temptation

Author: Nora Kane

Date: 2021

Quote: "We just ripped off some dudes that kill people...That can't be good."

Margot Harris, a police officer working toward the title of "Detective," tracks down the killer of a dead man two teenage thieves have found in a storage site they robbed. This is a short prequel to longer stories in which Margot solves a more challenging mystery. 

It did not make me want to own the whole series, but then I'm not passionate about murder mysteries--it might have that effect on you. 

Petfinder Post: Drudge Kitten's First Report

Time for a totally silly Cat Sanctuary Interview in which a human attempts to translate the nonverbal communication of another kind of animal into English words...

PK: "Drudge-kitten, you have just reached a developmental milestone, and it's time you reached another one. You were named after a great blog called the Drudge Report. It's time for you to report. What should readers know about you?"

Drudge: "I am adorable!!!"

PK: "That goes without saying. You are a kitten."

Drudge: "And I'm Pastel's and Borowiec's kitten, at that. Which means I'm Serena's grandkitten. I am very social, somewhat clever, and also, because of Borowiec, I have super soft and fluffy fur and I love to have it groomed and petted. I am a snugglebunny! You used not to notice it because my sister and brothers were even snugglier, but I actually like to be flipped over and tickled. And although I used to like to flip my siblings over, like every ten or fifteen minutes, when I had siblings, I have never bitten or scratched a human. Never!--I never used to bite or scratch through the siblings' fur, either, actually. I grew from second largest to largest kitten in the litter, and I'm strong and healthy, but I've always known my strength was not for hurting anyone."

PK: "You are up for adoption."

Drudge: "I don't want to be adopted. I don't want to be alone! I don't want to leave my grandmother alone!"

PK: "There is that. On the other hand, you are a t..."

Drudge: "Don't say it! I try to be good! I do everything a girl kitten would do, except, y'know, be female. I've been taunted and even molested by a family friend who says I'm girlish, but I try."

PK: "You don't fight,  you don't bite, and so far you haven't even been leaving tomcat odor on the porch, but I've seen some things you do, Drudge. You are an adolescent tomcat. Some cats have to be male and you are one of them. It's not all bad. Some people prefer a male cat as a companion. You just happened to be born at a house where none of those people live." 

Drudge: "But I'm still a sweet, cuddly, fluffy kitten! Same as I've always been! I love you! I love everybody! I'm a cute, lovable, caressable little fluffball!"

PK: "And you try to distract humans from things like hauling in groceries, burning trash, or pruning the hedge..."

Drudge: "Well of course! What good do those silly games do me?"

PK: "You had a great-great-great-grand-uncle who tried to distract someone from pruning the hedge and was stepped on and crushed. And the human who stepped on him felt just absolutely terrible about it."

Drudge: "Was that you?"

PK: "No, it was another human, who died a few years later. But I assure you the deliveryman, who now has two car phones in the delivery truck, is even bigger and heavier; and I'm sure he'd be just as sorry. You really need to stop trying to distract humans, Drudge."

Drudge: "Am I as small as that kitten was?"

PK: "Well, no. Actually a person who had not picked you up might think you were a full-grown cat, and I suppose you are as big as some adult cats--small females--six or eight pounds. Most of your size is still fur, though. Anyway, what can you tell our readers about your big achievement?"

Drudge: "Oh. That. Well, yes...I caught a mouse."

PK: "How did that happen?"

Drudge: "Well...I wasn't really watching. I was hiding. That human who creeps around at night? I've heard that he was the one who caused my mother to die, so when I smelled him approaching I hid. But then I smelled that he'd gone away leaving the usual mice, and my grandmother was inside with you, so I scattered them! What else are mice good for? I chased them into the woods--all but one who crawled up into the wall while I was chasing another one. I could smell him in the wall."

PK: "Everyone could. Male rodents smell stronger than females but I think that one must have had some sort of kidney disorder."

Drudge: "And you wanted my grandmother to chase him out, and the mouse had been running from wall to wall for two days and nights, and Gran was trying to make peace with you after having displeased you yesterday. I heard you teasing her about being an old Jennyanydots. What's that?"

PK: "Jennyanydots was a very famous old grandma cat. All she did was sit and sit and sit. Her human, a poet, imagined that she taught mice and vermin as if they were kittens."

Serena: "I'm a long way from that time of life! But you seemed to need a bit of a cuddle!"

PK: "After you climbed up on the window sill the third time! I should think so!"

Drudge: "You had shouted at her to go out, and she'd started to go out, then heard the mouse in the wall and thought it might try to get out into the closet. So she went in and occupied the closet. That, of course, drove the mouse straight out to me. I jumped at it, and...when I looked down...I'd caught it!"

PK: "And how did you, as a spoiled pet kitten, feel about that?"

Drudge: "Well, it certainly wasn't good to eat! Cats are supposed to eat mice but that one was disgusting. I didn't like to go near the possum--my aunt always dealt with them--but I left it on the ground for the possum's consideration. The possum didn't eat it. So then I thought I'd leave it on the porch for you. You didn't eat it. You scooped it up in a plastic bag and set it in the trash barrel. But you did seem...pleased?"

PK: "I was delighted. Tomcats are generally dumb animals who don't learn to hunt enough to survive in the woods, but just go around to different female cats' houses and beg--even if they're overfed by humans who think overfeeding will keep them close to home. For most male animals really are inferior, expendable, and nasty. But your great-great-great-great-great-grand-uncle Mackerel was a real hunter. Possibly you'll be another one. Like your mother, you're no match for Serena or Silver but you're brighter than the average cat."

Drudge: "Even if I did a stupid thing...?"

PK: "Yes, a few days ago you stuck your head right down inside a tin can, forgetting that your head is now big enough to get stuck inside, and fell down and rolled right through the hedge and down into the road in front of a truck. Fortunately for you the truck happened to belong to a decent human being who stopped and blew the horn, so I came out and found you. You wouldn't have scratched him if he'd tried to help you, would you, Drudge?"

Drudge: "Well...I might have tried to run away. I never mean to scratch anybody."

PK: "But nobody in the neighborhood will ever forget how a long-ago cat called Liza ran away when she was brought up here. Some older humans' skin tears very easily, even if it heals just as easily. Liza was rescued by an older man--about as old as that neighbor is by now. When released from the trap she left a trail of bleeding wounds. I suppose that's left him cautious about trying to help cats."

Serena: "Rightly so, I might add."

Drudge: "Yes. I'd much rather be picked up by you than by a stranger, even a familiar stranger, when my head was stuck in that tin. I was scared. But I heard your voice, even if I couldn't see or smell you, and thought you were sure to help...and you did help."

PK: "From now on, if you want to get the last drop of flavor out of a tin, you'll just have to get your paw dirty like the grown-up cat you're very close to being. Drudge, I'm sure you used to wonder about this, and now you know. You really are growing up. Do you have a role model you try to grow up like?"

Drudge: "Yes, I have. In most ways I want to grow up just like my grandmother!"

PK: "A good goal. She's a fine cat."

Drudge: "Only in one way I want to be different from her. I never want to be too grown-up and dignified to lie on your lap and be petted."

Serena: "That may be! All the same you'll never have Office Privileges."

Drudge: "I can live with that as long as I can purr and cuddle and get regular meals. I don't have to eat mice now, do I?"

PK: "Not if our readers and I have any say in the matter. We'll certainly try to supply you with kibble."

Drudge: "Kibble is much, much better food than mice."

PK: "The generation of humans that are nearly all gone by now used to say that a barn cat should have nothing to eat but mice, and whatever scraps the dogs, cows, and chickens might let it have, so that it would make itself useful hunting mice. They might drop an extra table scrap for a mother cat with kittens, but never for a tomcat. Those people didn't have any of their cats sterilized and usually thought they had too many barn cats already. That was before glyphosate--when unaltered cats could easily become overpopulated--so starving them off was probably more humane than letting them die of infectious diseases. But it never was a very humane way of living with cats, and it's completely unrealistic now. People need to feed cats, even the males. Most mice aren't fit even for cats to eat and should be left for possums...or for ants and burying beetles, if you don't have a possum."

Serena: "Some other people say that cats should be kept indoors all the time and never have a chance to hunt anything, anyway. Bury that!"

PK: "Bury it deep! Those people are thinking realistically about the life expectancy of cats in crowded cities. But nothing and nobody, not even humans, should live in crowded cities anyway. Cats and humans need to be outdoors at least some of the time. And humans need for cats to be at the top of the food chain, because cats are effective predators on rodents but are not able to turn on humans...even if they do not actually eat most of the rodents they kill. However, when cats get older and sleep most of the time, they live longer if they come indoors."

Serena: "I like being the one with office privileges...but I also like going out to hunt/ Don't get any ideas! If I can't climb on trees and claw at logs outdoors, I'll climb on shelves and claw at furniture!"

PK: "What do you think of the cat playrooms and 'catios' we see some people building for city cats?"

Serena: "I suppose they're good enough for city kitties who've never had anything better but I am Queen of the Cat Sanctuary and what you call the adjacent acres. To cats they're part of the Cat Sanctuary."

PK: "Tragically some humans don't appreciate cats' sense of property lines...as you've learned this winter. However, human laws that try to be 'kind' and 'humane' to the likes of our Bad Neighbor happen to be the best guarantee I can think of that he'll suffer for a long time before he dies. There is that. We have some other people watching him now, so he needs to understand that for him, just as for you, any step away from home may be his last. You don't need to be confined or sterilized, but he does. Let's move on to more pleasant subjects...like the cats and dogs looking for homes."

Serena: "Must I pretend I'm interested in them?"

PK: "No. It's about time you and Drudge had dinner. Enjoy your meal while I try to pick just one from each page of the cutest pictures of adoptable pets in the Eastern States."

1. Huggy from NYC 


He was probably a pet who became the victim of a human family problem. He was dumped out into an alley on a cold winter day. Instead of trying to join the alley cat colony he ran into an apartment and begged for food and attention. He likes humans more than other cats and might not mind being the only animal in the family as much as most cats do. 

2. Suki from DC


Suki is in foster care. I don't completely trust her foster humans, because they suggest that she's going to be a wonderful once-in-a-lifetime pet, and if that were the case, how could they bear to let someone else adopt her? I thought our Silver was likely to become a once-in-a-lifetime pet if she outlived Serena, and I hate the idea of her staying somewhere else, even with neighbors. She belongs where I am! Some other cat can live with Trumpkin and his humans. Silver is mine! Well, anyway, this Suki's spots are different but she looks just a bit like Silver, only not half as pretty. Maybe she really is sweet and lovable and social and all that they say. 

3. Marilyn from Atlanta   


Petfinder-affiliated shelters in Georgia seem to have very little turnover. Half the cats on that page have been featured here before! Anyway, Marilyn is new. She was rescued from an alley but may have been an abandoned pet, first, because she seems too friendly to have grown up feral. When rescued she had a nasty little disease that happened to be truly fixed  by spaying. She is the legendary cat who actually seems grateful for having been spayed. She loves to purr-and-cuddle with humans. She's friendly with other cats, too, and likes to greet people at the door...and they say she's actually earned money as a model, or "mewodel." 

1. Daisy from Alabama via NYC 



She's a Great Pyrenees, like Dave Paulides' "Executive Producer Huck L. Berry" dog. Gentle, affectionate fluffballs--super fluffballs--this breed was developed to survive on snow-capped mountain peaks. Daisy probably prefers winter to summer and might be happier in a place that gets more winter weather than Alabama. If you let her coat grow out to its full glory you may also be plagued, as Paulides says he's been, with clueless people yammering about how dangerously fat she is--when she's actually slim under the coat. Trimming the coat would do much to solve both problems but then she wouldn't look so special. Decisions decisions...Anyway Daisy is thought to be about two years old and a great hugger. Even at her healthy weight she's a large dog who will need lots of food and lots of exercise. On the other hand, no matter how sweet and affectionate a big dog may be, few evildoers will want the dog to catch them looking at you. If you want to walk or jog on the mean streets of New York, Daisy would be a great sidewalk-and-alley buddy.

2. Imogene by way of DC 


How did a hound as cute as this one get into a shelter? I picture her human in a hospital. "Dad, you can't go back home. You're too fragile and anyway the house has to be sold to pay your hospital bill." "What about my dogs?" "No worries. We put them in a good place." And the dogs are in a shelter. Imogene would have been killed to make room for some stray mutt if the miracles of modern technology didn't make it possible for her to be advertised as a pet in the big city. Imogene seems to be a pretty cool dog who can be happy almost anywhere...

No. I don't know this. Some part of my brain is reading the name "Imogene" as a suggestion to "imagine." Imogene may be the one who strayed, for all I know.

Anyway, she's just a pup, likely to grow bigger than she is now but probably not over 50 pounds. Bred to go hiking and camping with you, she'll enjoy couch potato time at home too. 

3. Thumper by way of Atlanta 


He's just a puppy. His mother was a retriever,  and, according to his web page, weighed about 45 pounds, but they have reason to believe he'll be bigger than that when full-grown. They also insist that the dogs be kept indoors. Is anyone seriously going to keep a 60-pound dog in the house? Retrievers, at that--not Aussies or Alsatians who can be trained to bring you their lead when they need to be taken outside. You might need to tell the control freaks that of course Thumper will be an indoor dog, with mental reservations like "...when the temperature is in the single digits." (Because of course you let animals come inside, or at least huddle in the basement, when the temperature is in the single digits.) He may be a total "blonde" all his life,  as many retrievers are, but he's already guaranteed to be friendly and lovable. Most retrievers are those things too. In any case, don't you want to get him out of that little cage into a place where he'll still be able to stand up straight next week?

I have known people who willingly chose to live with more than one retriever. Thumper has siblings. Just a thought.

Thursday, March 27, 2025

Celebration of Laughable Legislation

In preparation for April Fools Day, this web site celebrates some laws that have actually been enacted in Virginia and Tennessee. 

Fair disclosure: These were selected a few years ago by a newspaper editor, who shall be nameless, whose obvious purpose in writing his article was to object to a relatively reasonable law against posting images online that "are likely to frighten, intimidate, or cause emotional distress." He just wanted not to go to jail for printing photos of Candidates Trump and Harris during the last presidential election. 

Anyway, here's our refined selection of his selection. Each of these things has actually been in the law in some part of Virginia or Tennessee. It's not necessarily in the law now. I just wanted to share the giggles as I tried to imagine how these laws might ever have been written, much less how they could be enforced.

1. It is a crime to sell a hollow log. If someone wants a hollow log, you must make it a gift.

2. It is a crime to shoot any game from a moving vehicle--other than whales. It is legal to shoot whales from a moving vehicle in Tennessee. It is probably not a viable plan to take an obese person who has no reason to live into Tennessee, shoot him, and claim that you thought he was a whale.

3. If eight or fewer women are living, or renting bedrooms, in one house, it is still necessary to prove that they're using the place for the purpose of bringing in men and having sex with them for money. If nine or more women are living in one house, that alone may be considered proof that they're using it for that purpose. While this law presumably was written with an implicit understanding that no school, sorority house, or prison would be prosecuted...

4. It is a crime to catch fish with a lasso. However, it's not a crime to waste a day trying.

5. It is a crime to share your own Netflix password...not someone else's.  

6. It is a crime for a woman to call a man and ask for a date. Fellows? Stop waiting. If you want a date, pick up the phone.

7. It's illegal to flip a coin to decide who pays for coffee. This must be decided before entering the cafe. If you can't keep track of who paid the last time, you must draw straws.

8. Every business is required by law to have a hitching post for horses. 

9. It is illegal to transport an ice cream cone in your pocket. The law says nothing about whole pints. There are days in Tennessee when shoplifters would be positively motivated to stuff whole pints into their pants pockets, so if they have a problem with illegal transportation of ice cream, this should probably be addressed.

10. It is illegal to tickle a woman, but legal to tickle a man. 

Let's end this with a consideration of a law that makes sense to me, if it didn't make sense to the newspaperman. It is illegal to drive a motor vehicle while asleep. If your eyelids start to feel heavy, park the car. 

Drive carefully, and while fully awake, Gentle Readers.

Wednesday, March 26, 2025

Book Review: How to Write Commercial Fiction That Sells

Title: How to Write Commercial Fiction That Sells

Author: Josh Coker

Date: 2023

Quote: "This doesn't work every single time, for every single person. If you don't work hard and take ownership of your story, it is very likely to fail."

This is a very short, simple summary of what many writers and critics have observed about memorable stories: Characters have motives. Protagonists have to do something they don't usually do in order to get what they want, and if the story's not very short they encounter obstacles and make mistakes. Antagonists have reasons for what they do. Something or someone the protagonist cares about may be lost or sacrificed; there's some real danger that everything the protagonist wants may be lost; protagonists in fiction don't usually die, at least not before the last chapter, but sometimes...

This book will not actually teach you anything that longer (and more carefully written) books weren't teaching people in the 1930s. You might prefer the way Stephen King, Jerry Jenkins, or Anne Lamott explains the key ideas. This mini-book may, however, make the "homework" more interesting because the author chooses examples from current bestselling books, blockbuster movies, TV series and video games. You may not have thought of the Jungian psychology and echoes of literary classics in the game called Mortal Kombat; Coker shows that they're in there. 

If you want a very short, simple, intuitive reminder of components a story needs to have before you go to the trouble of writing it, this book is for you. What's to love is that, while Jenkins, King, Lamott, and their predecessors give examples of good writing, and talk about other things as well as the essential components of a good story, and inform and entertain you while you read their book  Coker gives an outline with just enough explication to ensure that people who've not read the ideas before know what he's talking about. Each point is covered in a page or two so you can scan the whole book during the time it takes to sit down to write a story.

Does this guarantee that your good story will sell? It does not. There are a lot of good people trying to sell good stories in this world. Good stories might have been overlooked twenty years ago because publishers assumed that people who buy books in English are of English or maybe Irish descent and are most interested in books by and about people of English or Irish descent; they might be overlooked this year because publishers are scrambling madly to "diversify" their lists and aren't interested in any more books by or about people of English or Irish descent. However, if your story meets the criteria Coker lists in this mini-book, and if it's written with reasonable clarity and good grammar, it will be a good story that has the potential to sell well enough to pay for the writer's time. Most stories still don't sell that well. Good stories have a chance.

Book Review: Summer of the Barshinskeys

Title: The Summer of the Barshinskeys

Author: Diane Pearson

Date: 1984

Publisher: Crown

ISBN: none

Length: 431 pages

Quote: “[T]he story of the Barshinskeys, which became our story, too, stretched over many summers and winters.”

The “Summer of the Barshinskeys” is 1902, when Mr. Barshinskey, a Russian emigrant fiddler, is hired to tend Mr. Hayward’s cattle in a rural English village, and arrives with his wife, an English Quaker, pushing all of their furniture in a hand cart. Behind the come three children, “two girls and a boy, the same as us,” notes young Sophie Willoughby eagerly.

The Willoughbys are “peasant gentry”—a family who have to work for their livings, but have been working in the same place long enough to be established and prosperous. The children are Sophie, age eleven, destined to be a domestic servant, and Edwin, a bit older, planning a career of railroad work, and Lillian, the pretty teenager studying to become a dressmaker.

\The Barshinskey children (Pearson artlessly notes that they spell their name “with c’s and h’s and s’s and z’s,”as if at least the U.S. half of her audience weren’t familiar with the name Brzezinski in 1984) are Daisy Mae, Ivan, and Galina, approximately the same ages as the Willoughbys. Naturally each boy has a crush on the other boy’s older sister. Naturally each girl has a crush on the other girl’s older brother.

Older sisters don’t come off too well in this book, probably because who ever heard of a fifteen-year-old girl having a crush on the thirteen-year-old boy next door? Lillian is pretty and too obsessed with her own prettiness to love anyone back. Galina is pretty and, in Sophie’s narrative, “sensual.” In the third-person parts of the book, people who aren’t Nice English Girls use the W-word.

Neither Sophie nor Daisy Mae is considered pretty, even by the men they eventually marry, but both of them have the fortitude of character their showier older siblings lack. Edwin is at least a good hard worker. About all that makes Ivan attractive, even to Sophie, is that he’s more than eleven years old and is not Sophie’s brother or cousin; he achieves a sort of hero status later on, in the war.

During the “Summer of the Barshinskeys” the younger children become friends (Galina and Lillian are already too old to be interested in school friends). In the autumn life events separate the two families again. Nevertheless,fifteen years later, when even Sophie and Daisy Mae are adults, they reconnect—in war-torn Russia, yet, where Edwin is wasting his money on Galina and getting beaten up for her sake, and tough little Daisy Mae is working on a Quaker humanitarian mission. Daisy Mae has always dreamed of being rescued by Edwin, from something, and eventually she is, even if she and her friends do more of the rescuing. Willoughbys and Barshinskeys remain friends as adults, they share adventures, and at least some of them marry each other.

Of this story Pearson says that “most of it” is fiction, but “it could well and truly have happened. Indeed, some of the personal experiences that were related to me were far stranger than my tale.” Her motive seems to be not so much to give the two younger sisters happy-ever-after endings, although she does, nor even to write a novel about “Russians As People,” although that’s the title of a nonfiction book she cites in the endnotes to this novel, as to write an adventure story about the Quaker mission in Russia.

Needling U.S. audiences might have been a secondary motive. The Cold War was still on—although everyone was thoroughly tired of it—and some American readers might have needed the reminder that at first the U.S. was officially sympathetic to the brand-new U.S.S.R.

I personally think most novels written for adults are, at best, froth on the stream of life, and this is one of the frothier kind, but I’ll forgive its frivolous plot since it does highlight an interesting bit of history that U.S. writers often forgot during the Cold War years. It’s harder to forgive Pearson for switching without warning from first to third person, and back, than it is to forgive all this novel’s other defects together. While keeping the Quakers in the background, focussing mainly on people they’ve helped in some way, it makes a statement of support for the Quakers.

Who should read it? Adults only. There’s a good deal of extramarital sex in the book, not all of it even involving Galina; children won’t learn any details here but they will see adults acting irrational under its influence. This is one of those novels where most of the characters are Christians but they don’t spell out a Christian message for the reader. Violence, like sex, is more implicit than explicit. Pearson does spell out one scene of mild torture and a few gruesome deaths, including one character readers might have been hoping to see reform. 

In the end it’s a life-affirming story that weaves Pearson’s elders’ memories of real adventures into its sweet-romance fantasy. If you like a romance with international glamour and intrigue and battles and so on in the background, you’ll enjoy this one.

Tuesday, March 25, 2025

Web Log for 3.24.25

Communication 

Rrrreally. (Content warning: references to people who make judgmental, could-have-told-you-so comments to the bereaved.)


Philosophy 

The only reason to "be good" is that good behavior is good. Resisting temptation is largely a matter of agreeing with the moral teachings you want to accept about the relative value of different good things, e.g. the goodness of being a sober, responsible adult versus the goodness of feeling like a party animal, or the goodness of being a Good  Cat whose humans love to have you indoors in cold weather versus the goodness of shredding that coat in the closet.

Book Review: Creative Visualization

Title: Creative Visualization 

Author: Valerie Martin

Publisher: Opal Tree

Date: 2016

ISBN: 978-1919636368

Quote: "This book is intended for inspiration purposes only, for people who have an interest in developing their creative practice."

A classic work of its era called Creative Visualization was published in 1978. For this mini-book to be released under the same title invites comparisons. Not all of the comparisons are unfavorable--the author known as Shakti Gawain had to spend more time selling the idea of "creative visualization" than guiding visualization exercises, and did not, in fact, include more exercises in her full-length book than Val Martin does in this little e-book. Nevertheless: Gawain's book was groundbreaking; Martin's is a rehash, even a digest. 

If you find it helpful to visualize yourself walking through beautiful landscapes and reaching insights into a "creative" project on which you're feeling blocked, here are fourteen visualization exercises. I find it interesting, and illuminating, that Julia Cameron said nothing about visualizing the walk but advised her audience of artists to do the walk. For me the visualization might be a substitute worth trying if I were laid up with an injury, but I can't say I've ever used it with success. If insights are down in the well of my unconscious mind, they rise to the surface when I apply the outside of my feet to the outside of the Earth. 

At least Martin's visualizations are so pretty that they're likely to suggest a lovely romance, or reconciliation, or some sort of happy-ending scene for a novel, or a landscape for a feel-good painting. 

Will I Always Be an Outsider Here?

A local lurker asked, recently. Person moved in from a different town in Virginia. Person got to know only a few people, mostly in one family. The relationship with that family was not ideal. Suddenly that nice little house in my nice little town began to feel very lonely. "Will I always be an outsider here?"

All I can say is: Define "outsider."

Gate City is not that town, allegedly in Vermont, where a gravestone allegedly reads something like "Here lies John Smith: Born in nearby town, 1812. Moved here with parents, 1820. Joined church, 1828. Married Jane, daughter of Councilman John Doe...served in...appointed to...elected to..." for nine or ten lines showing full membership in the community, and then the final line, "Died here, 1898. Dearly Loved Tho' a Stranger Among Us."

No. You can vote in the election after you buy or rent property here. You become the working equivalent of a relative by marrying a relative. You become a friend, or don't, on the same schedule you would anywhere else, with one person at a time. 

If you are becoming a friend, your having lived somewhere else  is...interesting, to many local people. Why do people always imagine that they are the only ones who ever feel awkward and socially insecure? Small towns retain a lot of the people who felt too awkward and socially insecure to move away, who got jobs only because their parents arranged jobs for them, or who own land or were full-time mothers and never got jobs at all. Most people in a small town resent that stereotype, but stereotypes have to come from somewhere. There are people like that here. They don't know what to say so, if the one thing their none-too-active brains retain about you is that you used to lived in a different town, even if the town in question is Clinchport, or even Yuma (the settlement on the other side of the mountain), if you live here for fifty years they'll still be greeting you with "Have you gone back to Yuma lately? Do you miss it? Do you want to go back?" You might be the closest thing they have to a friend, but still they'll say things that sound as if they thought you ought to go back to where you came from, because what else are they going to say. Some people just aren't very bright. One of the things some people like about small towns is that the relatives of the not-very-bright often find ways to fit them into local society, and everyone is charitable about them.

If you marry into a local family, outside that family you might be considered part of the community now. Inside, it might be a different story. Nobody ever thinks their in-laws are good enough for their relatives and extended families tend to grind it in. Why did I not bring my husband home and tell everyone about him? I'd seen how the family behaved toward some people my cousins were almost as lucky to get as they were to get my cousins, and said to myself, "I would not like to have married into this family."

If you work for a locally owned business, people who look forward to helping you spend your wages will want to be friendly. People who did not get your job will resent you. Any legal and even borderline socially acceptable behavior that makes you wish you worked a thousand miles away will be noted and repeated, and repeated, and repeated.

If you have your own business, and bring money from outside our town into our town--which is what most adults want their children to do--people of good will may admire you; that will be one more reason for people of ill will to resent you.

If you have a disability and chose your new home because it was accessible and near a reliable personal assistant...God help us, there are people who will resent that, too. What did you ever do to be so lucky when someone else had an unreliable personal assistant?

Whatever people notice first about you, there is someone who thinks this town could use some more of it, and someone who hates it. Height? Work experience? The car you were driving when you came into town, even if it was a rental? Yop. Haters hate because they are haters.

You have to understand that some people have never really recovered from going to public school during the baby boom. Everyone had a friend and an enemy, in each grade, however arbitrary the reasons for the choice of friends and enemies may have been, and however little most of us did about having friends and enemies. Those of us who can now shake the hands of our primary school enemies are strictly those of us who finished high school and lived somewhere outside of my home town for a few years. For some people who certainly look as if they ought to be "mature," I mean, who have grandchildren, hostilities are as strong as they were on the day the official enemy walked up to them on the first day of school and said "That's an ugly shirt, a stupid lunchbox, a bad hairstyle..." 

Some of us were the little poison-pills who walked up to people on the first day of school and made those remarks about the shirts their mothers had chosen. The biggest bully in my brother's classes, who finally stopped persecuting my brother because he was held back another year and could beat up even smaller classmates, got a government job. The meanest-mouthed girl in my class...at least she works in the private sector. They've changed! They've matured! But probably not as much as would be desirable. Some people still are the social bullies who tell other people, "Don't talk to that person unless you want to be as unpopular as that person is!" and some people still are the second-string social bullies who don't talk to "that person," too.

Some of us were, of course, the nice, kind people who never did or said anything to hurt anybody, even in primary school, and still don't. And since those people don't want to get into any controversy, they probably didn't say much at school at all, and they probably still don't. I was not necessarily one of those people at school, but as an adult I can relate to the idea that a successful trip into town is one on which all the errands are done without having to speak to anyone. You're not an outsider, to these people; you're not an enemy; you're just not one of the half-dozen people to whom these hermit souls find it necessary to talk, or relate, or pay any kind of attention. People who seemed nice and kind in primary school probably have hermit souls.

Mean people are usually extroverts. Kind people are usually introverts. There are more kind people in most small towns, including mine, than there are mean people; but the mean people make a lot more of the noise.

All these things are generally applicable to all small towns. In your own town you know some, not all, of the most unpleasant people's names. In another small town you don't. That might be one definition of the difference between "insider" and "outsider" and, if it's your definition, you can probably become an "insider" in five or ten years.

Sometimes it may be possible to measure some specific indicators of the extent to which people dislike, or don't care about, people who are "like you" in some specific way...or at least the extent to which living in a specific town will be an inconvenience to you. Do all the stores have steps, or do some have flat doorways or ramps? My town still has a lot of steps but, when and as money permits, people are putting in ramps.

But hostility, as distinct from cluelessness, has usually been driven underground to some extent. By now most Americans have heard enough about race prejudice to be ashamed of feeling it, if they do, but does that mean that they'll flock to a new store owned by someone who looks different from them, or that they'll resent the idea of someone who looks different from them even wanting to move in and open a store? To what extent does this have to do with loyalty to an existing store, as distinct from prejudice against a new store, as distinct from prejudice against a physical type defined as a "race," as distinct from their attitudes toward a type or even a brand of merchandise? Market surveys need to be very specific. Sometimes people say "Yes, we'd love to see that" when the unspoken bulk of the iceberg is "It would be nice if other people wanted that kind of store, and made it possible for this nice new neighbor to keep it open, but I wouldn't have any use for it." Sometimes they say "No, that wouldn't work" when the unspoken bulk of the iceberg is "Something in that general line didn't work, in the past; I have no idea whether you've learned enough from that other person's mistakes to have a working model for that type of business now; I'd support it if you had one, but I'll believe you have one when I see it." 

In the mid-twentieth century whole demographic groups of people decided that mainstream US culture had changed in ways that didn't serve them well. It seemed convenient at the time to call the things people wanted to change "traditional"; actually they were recent innovations. Black Americans didn't like the system of segregation that developed between the 1920s and the 1950s. Women didn't like the idea of suburban homemaking that developed (from an idea touted by French Socialists in the 1830s) between the 1930s and the 1950s. "Creative" people didn't like the conformism that was fashionable in the 1940s and 1950s. Homosexuals didn't like being presumed mentally ill and dangerous to society. People who built and worked with machinery didn't like many of the machines that were used in the 1950s and 1960s, and in fact we now know that some of them, like the hateful electric typewriter, were designed to leave lots of room for improvement while the designers worked on the inventions intended to replace them. Left-wingers didn't like the Cold War. Young men didn't like being drafted to fight in the Vietnam war. Lots of people wanted to change the changes that had been made earlier in the century. So the ones who were in the Democratic Party took it over and declared it the party of Change. 

Others of the people who wanted all that Change thought there were better ways to make Change than making the US more like the USSR. Equal opportunities, feminism, "creativity," inventiveness, pacifism, and "not necessarily pacifism but at least ending the draft" have nothing whatsoever to do with either the Democratic Party or socialism; they merely happened to interest some people who were in the Democratic Party and/or wanted socialism in the mid-twentieth century. Not only have women my age had to demonstrate that our being independent, feminists, single, entrepreneurs, yuppies or whatever else we are have nothing to do with left-wing politics; apparently young women still do, which is inexcusable. If you are Black, if you're not half of a happy heterosexual couple and not asexual in a way that's easily explained by an obvious medical condition, if you're "creative," if you're Green, if you're the sort of really radical Christian who has no more in common with capitalism than with communism, and you're not Loony Left--if you're any of those things and your politics are even moderate D, much less if they're R--the Trump Train has done a lot toward helping people in small towns imagine that you might be a good neighbor, as distinct from a "Communist" troublemaker. But you still need to prove that you, individually, are not working toward "Agenda 21" or some other form of anti-American, anti-democratic, anti-civil-liberties nastiness.

If you're not working toward the goal of leftist tyranny, but your ancestors have not been in my town for six, ten, or more generations like most of ours, are you still an "outsider"? If you're making a solid contribution to a community as others in the community want it  to be, but you spent part of your life outside that community, are you still an "outsider"? Define "outsider." 

Some people in my town have made being a proud "outsider" into a sort of trademark. Confident in their marriages to local people, they've revelled in being "the one from" some other town. When asked "Do you miss your home town? Do you ever want to go back?" they organize car pools! Unfortunately this is easier for The One From Clinchport to do than it is for The One From England... 

Some people are probably in for a hard time anywhere because they've made "persecuted outsider" part of their identity. It's one thing to be proud of being Irish or Jewish or Italian or Black or Southern, of having a strong, rich tradition that will go with you wherever you are. It's quite a different thing to define yourself in terms of victimhood. If you identify yourself as a victim it can be hard to act in ways that don't invite people to treat you like a victim all over again. If you buy into that stereotype the D Party are currently pushing--the one about Rs being neo-Nazis--you are identifying yourself as a victim

I don't know of any neo-Nazis in my town. I know that, while our Greatest Generation were alive, any neo-Nazis who grew up in my town would have been very quiet until they could get out, which they would have done as fast as they could. Though actually, if someone my age had come up to any of my male elders and said "I'm a Nazi" or "I'm a Communist," I imagine that what would have happened would have been a long hard look that could have frozen alcohol, and a softly spoken but intense reply along the lines of, "You don't know what you're talking about. Go home," and the person would have gone home, and stayed home, for a good long time. The men who volunteered to kill real Nazis were not prone to private violence. 

But the sort of thing we read and hear these days...! Seriously. We in my part of the world are starting to enjoy springtime weather, and some idjit whines, "You have to mention that some places are having autumn weather now, too, so that people in Australia don't feel left out." Well, I'm sorry, but that's Nature for you! They sort of are being left out. There are contexts where it feels realistic and reasonable to write that, or say in a public speech that, "On this day, which is midsummer for us here and midwinter for people in some other places..." and there are contexts where it's realistic and reasonable to write or say that, on this day, here, we are having this kind of weather, as distinct from what people somewhere else are having, as distinct from what we had at this time last year, as distinct from whatever else is not part of this time and this place. I like and respect the Australians I've met. Likewise the Canadians. Likewise the Zambians. Likewise the people in a hundred other demographics. I respect them enough to believe that they can speak for themselves, in their turn, and fill in the gaps. If I've said "your State," writing to a US audience, and you're reading this web site in a country that is not divided into States, I expect you to be able to fill in "province" or "district"  or whatever is relevant. More novels should probably be set in New Zealand and have sultry Christmas Days before the pohutukawa trees bloom, and so on, but Americans aren't going to write those novels. What I know something about is States; what I know about the season and the weather is that spring begins in March here; what I know about the birds outside my window is that they're cardinals and wrens, and so on. It would be more presumptuous for me to write as if I had any experience of Canadian provinces, or autumn in March, or the birds outside the window being nightingales. And if you are the sort of person who goes into a small town and annoys people with this kind of thing, yes, you can expect to spend a lot of time feeling left out, of more than descriptions of local weather.

Would, say, a "gay" man always be an "outsider" in my home town? Well...does he want to be accepted as an unmarried man who might or might not seem especially close to a friend or housemate, or is he going to demand that other people celebrate his "special" relationship and his "I'm not annoying, it's just that everyone else hates me because I'm so wonderful" attitude? It matters. If a former student or a friend's son were asking me, I'd say that, when you want to focus on your sexuality, my town is less than an ideal place to be; the selection of possible bedmates is probably ghastly and the number of people who don't want to think about you in that context is high. I don't know that that's a reason not to live here. Heterosexuals who don't want to date our cousins don't have a lot of options here, either; I had dates in Washington, I was married in Washington, and then I came home and had dates in another place that's not my home town. So if you want to focus on work or personal  growth when you're here, and either have your sex life somewhere else or have a stable, discreet relationship you can bring here, yes, you can be "gay" and be happy here. If you want to go around blathering about silence being death and everybody needing to know exactly what you and your boyfriend do at home, you probably won't be happy anywhere else either, but you certainly won't be happy here.

Would an Orthodox Jew always be an "outsider" here? Aren't they supposed to be "outsiders" everywhere; isn't that the point? A secular Jew who has not embraced socialism as a substitute for religion might like my home town. A Messianic Jew ought to like my home town. An Orthodox Jew would probably prefer to live in a place where there are enough other Orthodox Jews for a proper religious meeting. In some small towns there are. In mine there are not.

Would a Mexican-American, say the US-born son or daughter of legal immigrants, always be an "outsider" here? Much would depend on how much the person was willing to assimilate. We have a Taco Bell and a real sit-down Mexican restaurant. We also have at least one old idiot who called the parents of someone whose best school friend was waiting for person to join a car pool, to warn with quivering voice, "Some Mexicans have been parked across the street from your house for five minutes now!" The Mexicans involved laughed. They see the people who like them. They have good jobs; their neighbors enjoy being their neighbors. A different sort of Mexicans might have kept the old idiot in their minds' eyes, obscuring any view of the people who like them, for all the years it's been.

Would a Northerner always be an "outsider" here? Grandma Bonnie Peters was born in Kansas and grew up in Indiana. She was a Daughter of the Confederacy but she was a Northerner. People loved her anyway. Northerners who appreciate what they find here can be liked. Are they "outsiders"? You'd have to ask them. Councilman Roberts was a Northerner--almost an Englishman!--and people liked him enough to put him on the county council. People also made remarks about his accent and "Where is he from, anyway?" Define "outsider."

We've had Black councilmen, too. We've had female councilmen. We had two big stores, one owned by a Jewish family and one by a Palestinian family, across the street from each other, for years. People go to Indian-American doctors. People go to Chinese restaurants, even if they're not gluten-sensitive and even if they did not adopt Chinese children in the Bush administration. My brother used to love having someone to speak French to; I always enjoy having someone around who speaks Spanish. My family have had some of the biggest and best reunions, and those gatherings look like America. We had some "White supremacist" types come in looking for sympathy, thirty-some years ago, and we laughed them out of town, but in a charitable way, those poor idjits. We are not, generally, a town of haters. If anything we are a little too tolerant when people are haters, or are just plain sociopathic land-coveters. I think that may be typical of small towns too. Someone who has a good resume reaches middle age and nobody wants to believe how much evil he may be doing.

Am I an "insider" here? I have deep roots and a solid pedigree and a little hereditary property. Does that mean everybody likes me? Of course not; I have a third cousin who's been doing as much as he dares toward the goal of killing me for years now. Admittedly. Does it mean I'm part of some big "insider" clique? I think the town and county council may be a bit of a clique, and I want no part of any such thing. I don't participate in gossip. I don't want to do business on a basis of "liking" or not "liking" people; I want to treat all people impartially, according to the way they treat me. I reserve the right to agree with some things some people in the councils, and the Historical Society, want to do and disagree with others. Does that, all by itself, make me an "outsider" to some people? Absolutely. Does just not having a lot of money make me an "outsider" to even more people, in or out of my town? Of course it does. Does having a substantial amount of money, not even new money, in the family make me even more of an "outsider" to another lot of people, whether or not I even live to inherit any of the said money? Of course it does! 

Anybody can declare anybody else an "outsider." Anybody can declare self an "outsider," even when others have tried to bring the person "inside" a group. A poet once wrote:

He drew a circle that shut me out:
Heretic, rebel, a thing to flout.
But Love and I had the wit to win:
We drew a circle that took him in.

It's an interesting historical exercise, at least: Make a list of the important things people have accomplished in human history. Use your own working definition of "important things." How many of those things were accomplished by "insiders"? How many by "outsiders"? How many by people who were born "insiders," like Jesus the descendant of David who, as soon as he'd made bar mitzvah, was hanging around under the feet of the rabbis at the Temple,  and then became "outsiders" because they made a difference? 

Define "outsider." Then give an example, and then explain why on Earth you care, anyway. If you like being here and don't want to make my town more like the place you left, then a reasonable number of people here will like you, a majority will leave you alone, and some should, as the song says, just go and love themselves.